Positive Self-Talk with Power of Affirmations

Positive self-talk means purposely giving yourself positive reinforcement, motivation, and recognition - just as you would do for a friend. Congratulate yourself when you do well, and remind yourself of your abilities, accomplishments, strengths and skills. Keep a to-do list, check off accomplishments, and review your progress periodically. Keep a gratitude journal to refer to as time moves forward, to see progress and positive growth.

Creating a plan of self-talk that works for you can relieve stress. What you habitually say to yourself has a very profound impact on your self-image, your self-esteem, and your performance as well as eventual success. Remember that your subconscious triggers physiological responses to match the pictures and thoughts that you have of yourself to make them happens. Make this work for you by keeping your self-talk positive. When you are focusing on the positive, you will feel less stress in your body and mind, resulting in a healthier life.

Stop negative self-talk whenever you catch your thoughts going in that direction. You may well be quick to nag yourself because your mother wanted you to be more than perfect, or your boss needed your assignment an hour ago. However, negative self talk can be damaging because your subconscious believes what you say to yourself when you repeat that negative talk in your mind over and over. How is your subconscious to know otherwise? If you catch yourself using negative self-talk, stop and rephrase. Eliminate the negative words. Focus instead on the best course you can take and do it.

Make positive communications a habit.  Focus on the positive in goal statements, self-talk, and all communications. Compare the following phrases, and notice how the positive words convey confidence, commitment, and enthusiasm. 

For example instead of  “I will try,” substitute the phrase “I will.“ Instead of saying to yourself, “I should do ...“ insert the phrase “I will do ...“ Try saying, “I want to“ or “I choose to” instead of the more common  “I must.“ These subtle changes in language can trigger a fresh perspective!

Affirmations are statements that have proven to be very powerful in support of a shift in self-talk. Affirmative statements are positive self-statements or reminders to help you achieve goals. They are positive messages with a punch, “mental bumper stickers” of sorts, to motivate your subconscious mind to work for you. 

Here are guidelines to help you use the powerful tool of affirmative statements as vital mental reminder technique:

• Make the statements personal to yourself, not arbitrary or generic. Use the phrase “I”, your own name. 
• Keep affirmations short. How can you use the affirmations if you cannot remember them? 
• Phrase your affirmations positively. The mind accepts as truth the words that you give it.  Use positive words only as affirmations. Leave out any negative words.  For example, instead of saying, “I will not be nervous during my interview with the supervisor,“ say, “I will be calm and self-assured during my interview.”
• Include a positive emotion. A phrase that triggers a positive emotion strengthens the affirmation. For example, “My goals are valuable and excite me.” 
• Phrase affirmations as fact. Phrase a goal as though it is happening even if you have not achieved it yet. Your subconscious believes mental messages and works to make them a reality. 
• Say your affirmation at least 6 times a day. Repetition is life. Repetition enhances self-confidence, acts as a reminder, and stimulates your subconscious to help you achieve your goals in life. 
• It cannot be overstated the impact that positive self talk and affirmative statements can help you towards the vital goals that you have identified in your life. Remember that without goals, even if you work hard, you are like a ship without a rudder.

These powerful tools of positive self talk and positive affirmations can more than help speed you along to your chosen goals.

Blessings!
Amy Jo

Facing Stress and Visualizing a Different Result

This week, the New Moon arrives on Thursday, July 19th at 12:24am EST. There's a New Moon cycle that happens every month, yet this New Moon is something special for me. It's a time to focus on what is desired for the month to come, to the time of the full moon when all is viewed in a new light.

There are changes happening in my life right now. I'm learning to release more in my role as a parent as my son grows older. I'm honoring the quiet times I'm spending alone, and living in gratitude for the times my son and I spend together. My business is evolving, with new people coming into my circle. I'm facing change in a new, wondrous way, instead of in fear and with stress.

It hasn't always been this way. One of the key reasons I'm passionate about helping people relax, relieve stress and reduce pain is that I was once someone who suffered from it. I lived in an urban environment, had a job with a high level of responsibility and expectations, and was a single parent with an active son, as well as family obligations, which added up to mounds of stress. What I learned about how to overcome stress, I'll share with you...


When you feel yourself acknowledge "I am under stress right now. Please don't bother me," stop. When your head is pounding and you are facing extreme stress at work or in your relationships, stop. When your children put you under so much stress you feel helpless and defeated, stop. Stress is one of the most commonly claimed ailments, related to physical, emotional and psychological issues. Let's try to understand it better and how to relieve some of the affects.


How is "Stress" defined? Pressure, strain, anxiety, worry etc. All those negative states that make living difficult are commonly termed as stress. Any time, when the loss of control goes beyond our capacity, we feel stressed. As far as we are in control, we are able to cope with it, and as soon as we begin losing control, we experience stress.


The worst part of stress is the common methods used to fight it. Smoking and alcohol are common stress busters. Even overeating for some of us is a stress buster. All these put more pressure on our mind and body and lead to diseases.


What are the easy ways to beat stress? Would getting away from the stressful situation for some help? Yes it can, and if we add an exercise of imagination where we imagine a relaxing situation and feeling, we can alleviate stress quickly.


Try this. Take 7 very deep breaths in ... and out, so that each breath in and out becomes slower and slower. Imagine your favorite relaxing scene, whether it's at the beach, in the mountains, by a river in a hammock - whatever it is for you - imagine it. Pay attention to the all of the details: the color of the sky, how many clouds, the shapes of the clouds, the temperature of the air, whether the sun is shining brightly or covered slightly or a lot by clouds, the scents in the air, whether there are birds and what types they are, etc. Become present in these moments of relaxing imagery.


Visualization helps many of us. If you also get some help with such an exercise, you will beat stress in the initial stage itself and keep your control with yourself. A very good method of reducing stress is listening to peaceful music and reading motivational text messages or affirmations. You can do that sitting right in front of your desktop with a good screensavers and wallpapers of motivation, living, daily thoughts, success thoughts etc.

Stress takes away control from us. When we take the control back, stress disappears. That can be done only if we are confident and relaxed. Visualization helps us achieve that state. This is a simple exercise. In my holistic practice, visualization is a tool to overcome many negative emotions and physical results of stressful lifestyles. Never take stress lightly. As soon as you find that stress is causing you more damage than you can cope up with, get professional help.


If I can answer questions about facing stress or using visualization as a tool to overcome stress, contact me by email at luxuriouspampering@gmail.com or by phone at 571.215.4963.

Blessings!
Amy Jo

Freedom from Negative Emotions

“...You want freedom. You want freedom from negative emotion. ...Whether you are consciously aware of it or not — what all of you want is a sense of Well-being.” 

(Abraham-Hicks)

When we feel a negative emotion, (and I have felt plenty!), such as anger, irritation, resentment, guilt, shame, sadness, jealousy, feeling unappreciated, etc., those negative emotions cause stress in our bodies. Our bodies hold onto that stress, and it can manifest in a variety of ways, such as a headache, ulcer, neck and shoulder pain, depression, fatigue, decreasing ability to focus and remember, constantly thinking about an issue or a person bothering you, etc. When you don’t feel good, it becomes more difficult to feel overall happiness.

BioTurn Therapy is a quick and easy way to permanently eliminate emotional stress. You’ll be amazed at how quickly and easily the negative emotion goes away! Even if you experience a similar incident that previously caused you stress, the incident will no longer cause you to feel that negative emotion.

The idea is to eliminate negative emotion after negative emotion, so that you start feeling lighter and happier. And as you experience greater happiness, you attract happier people and situations into your life, and you make more positive decisions that don’t have those negative emotions attached. Your life course changes!

A recent recipient of BioTurn Therapy happily commented that the technique helped her release an emotion from a situation that had plagued her for years!

For a free 10 minute demonstration of BioTurn Therapy, call me at 571/215-4963 or e-mail me: luxuriouspampering@gmail.com. I want to see you happier!

Blessings, Amy Jo